Now, if you’re like most women, you probably attract the guys that you don’t really want. The creepy Camerons, the needy Nicks, the lame… What is a guy’s first name who start with an L? You get the point.
You probably have no problem attracting certain types of guys, but you’re here right now because the guys that you do want are probably not necessarily pursuing you. Don’t worry, you sexy single lady, I’m here to help you attract the man and the type of guy that you really want, so if that sounds good to you, comment below saying I’m ready to find love while the intro plays, I’ll see you in a second.
Hey there, my name is Adam LoDolce from Sexy Confidence where I help the 21st century woman creates a love life that she absolutely fricking loves and this aticle is all about attracting the man you really want.
Now, the internet is full of a ton of especially when it comes to teaching you, ladies, how to attract men. Over the past year, I’ve heard a researcher here at Sexy Confidence and I really want to combine my experience as a dating coach and real data, real research, real scientific insight and also just a basic common sense and combine all that stuff to give you, sexy single ladies, the best advice possible. So, this video is a combination of all that to help you attract the man you really want. Here are the best to attract men.
Through Kindness: Now, one major study asked 10,000 men and women what quality they find most important in a mate. And the number one response all way across the board kindness.
Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be the type of person that a man can walk all over, just do anything he wants. No, what this means is that you care about the other person, and you want to make them happy so long as the happiness doesn’t come at the expense of yourself. And so long as that person is reciprocating.
So be kind, so long as he’s kind, as well.
Youthfulness: Now, for you ladies who are watching this video who are maybe a little bit older, notice that I didn’t say youth. I said youthfulness. The definition of youthfulness is behavior or appearance characteristic of young people. Note that word ‘behavior’.
Again, for you ladies who might not be on the younger side, don’t click away from this video because most women assume that men are only interested in young women. But in my experience of coaching a lot of women of all ages, I found that it has actually less to do with the specific age, it has a lot to do with the attitude of that person.
Someone who is 60-year-old can be incredibly youthful, they love to be social, spontaneous, excited about life and just have a lot of energy to bring to a conversation. Whereas some women who are 22-year-old can be so old, lame, boring and way too serious.
So, when you’re going out there and meeting people and having conversation, remember to bring that youthfulness to the conversation, bring that new energy as much as possible. And you ladies, one of the biggest complaints I get from women who are a little bit older is that they only meet guys who are so fricking old, like they’re gross, like an old, saggy balls attitude old.
You don’t want that, okay? So, remember, before a first date, remember to bring that youthful attitude to the table.
Women with High Self Worth, AKA High Value Women: Now, confidence doesn’t mean going out to every guy, needing every conversation, asking the guy out and leading the direction of how everything goes. No, it doesn’t mean that necessarily. And actually, that is bringing a lot of masculine energy to the table.
I want you to be sexy confidence. It’s really feminine confidence.
And really what that ultimately comes down to is knowing that you deserve relationship, being confident in what you bring to the table and knowing that you deserve something amazing.
So, I want you to start setting standards to yourself, you’re part of this community. You’re an amazing sexy single lady and don’t forget that. And if you find that you’re meeting guys who aren’t treating you that way, set that standard and tell them, you know, use that amazing four-letter word which is ‘next’ and find that next guy.
Curves: This all comes down to the classic hourglass shape that a lot of men evolutionarily are looking for. Now, most of this video I talked about attraction as it pertains to things that you can’t necessarily change about yourself, but I would be doing you disservice to not talk about the physical side, as well.
A women’s figure, of course, is a component of attraction. I’d be lying to you if I said it wasn’t. And the hourglass shape is something that men just on a very instinctual level look for and respond to.
Researchers have actually documented really a magnetic male attraction to a waist to hip ratio of about .7. This is the classic hourglass. And an iTracking study last year found that men start to evaluate a woman’s hourglassness within the first 200 milliseconds of viewing them. I like big buts and I cannot lie. But, of course, not everyone has a perfect hourglass shape, and that’s okay, that doesn’t mean you can’t attract men.
But what it does mean is you want to take a look at the clothing that you wear, and find clothing that really does accentuate and bring out that type of a figure.
Women Who Give Indicators of Interest: Researchers who study speed dating events where men and women basically make decisions in a matter of seconds or even minutes, found that just simply showing a little bit of interest in the conversation, can build a massive amount of attraction.
So, when you’re talking to a guy, really listen to what he’s saying, and if you’re digging what he’s saying, even break the touch barrier slowly but surely, find a reason to maybe laugh and touch his arm, you’re sending an enormous amount of signals to him that “hey, I’m interested”, and maybe a little bit more.
Showing that indicator of interest to him, also will boost his confidence and he’s going to bring his ‘A’ game. Like, he’s going to get excited. If he feels that you’re not digging him or you’re not interested, what is he going to do? He’s going to move on to someone else.
Positive Attitude: Now, for starters, this is not groundbreaking, right? Clearly, negativity is not attractive. Positivity is attractive. But men really are attracted to like pleasant, positive, just generally cheerful women, they’re just interested and studies have shown that.
And I will personally attest to this, I have gone out on many dates in my life and there are some women you can just tell all they want to do is talk about other people or be negative, or you can tell that their lives are just not put together.
And I remember when I met Jess, it was just like a breath of fresh air because the way she had like, these amazing lenses that she saw the world through and she was just always so happy and so positive about everything and I loved it, it was very magnetic to me.
Honesty: Now, it’s not like you need another reason to be honest, you should be honest regardless, not to just attract men. But actually, research does find that honesty actually affects judgment of physical attractiveness, as well.
Interestingly enough, this study showed that participants deemed honest people as being more fit, healthy and kind. So, who knew telling the truth really is sexy?
Smile: One of the easiest ways to improve your appearance is just smiling. And a lot of what I talk about in my trainings, in my advanced courses is this concept that I call ‘smalking’, which is smiling while talking and some people struggle with this. I used to struggle with this myself, but it’s something you can actually train yourself to do when you’re meeting people for the first time.
And just by being aware of this and holding the smile when you’re having conversation, try it, try it tonight, the next time you talk to someone. It is amazing how well they’re going to perceive you and how they’re going to perceive you is being a much more attractive and inviting person.
Playing with Your Hair: Now back in the day when I used to coach men on how to flirt and meet you, sexy single ladies, I would always coach them to take a look for a woman who’s kind of (playing with hair gesture), when they’re talking to you, playing with their hair, or even kind of like combing it a little bit because what they’re basically doing subconsciously or consciously, and it is showing you that ‘hey, I’m interested in you’.
This is just a natural reflex that women will do and men will sometimes do it, but more so touching their faces when they’re attracted to the other person. So, go ahead, play with your hair and you’re going to be sending very subtle cues that ‘hey, I’m down’.
Just Your Overall Energy and Vibe: Have you ever met some people and you just thought within like three seconds of meeting them, like yikes, I’m not interested. And then other people you meet within a few minutes you think “damn, I like this person, this person’s great”.
Well, what that comes down to is your body language, your vibe, what energy you bring into the table. And I found that this is a lot of what I would work on with both men and women when they’re going, meeting new people, it’s just working on their vibe.
So next time you go out, I want you to keep an eye on for other people’s vibe and see what works and what doesn’t work. Just opening your eyes a little bit will make more attractive to other people.
Your Brain: Now, let me tell you something I learned a long time ago. Smart, confident guys are attracted to smart, confident women. On the other hand, dumb, insecure guys are intimated by smart women.
If you agree, I’d love to hear yes, I agree in the comments. And sadly, most men that you meet are going to be dumb and insecure. But I don’t want you to change your ways too much because what happens, a lot of women will keep meeting a lot of dumb, insecure men and say, “Well, I’m smart and maybe I should change my ways.” Don’t do it, don’t dumb yourself down.
Of course, be humble, don’t brag like don’t belittle people if you meet someone who might not be the smartest guy in the world, but at the same time, like don’t be afraid to show your intellectual side, it’s totally okay.
So, there you have it, those are the 11 ways to attract men. If you agree with all this, I’d love to hear from you in the comments, and maybe if I missed something, leave a comment below and share with this amazing community.